WITHOUT NATURAL AFFECTION

  The co-dependency of two people means that they have an attachment that is like two hands in one glove.  Emotionally, they are inseparable.  Though attached, they are not co-equal:  one will dominate the relationship; the other will be submissive.
   As such,
      one leads; the other follows.
      one dictates orders; the other fills the shopping list.
      one rules the house; the other scrubs the floors.
   Their personalities are blended together as one, and they think alike.
   Co-dependent people are introverts:  mixing with others is not natural.  They do not invite others into their world, for they wait to be invited, which helps them to feel important.  Their best friends are usually family members, or people they can control and dominate.  They do not want others to know them as they truly are, which means they are not forthcoming and honest.  They do not talk about matters of the heart.  Therefore, their friendships are limited. 
   Co-dependent people stick together like glue.  They like the same things and do things together because they are emotionally inseparable. 
   Co-dependent people lack self-confidence and they have low self-esteem.  Because of their pride, however, they want to be the show, to get the attention, and, hopefully, to be the star or the hero:  all of which is a cover-up of their confidence and esteem.  They want others to think as much of them as they think of themselves.  They are also selfish as well as unwilling to change or to learn something new.  To them, their way is the right way and their way is the only way; therefore, they want others to follow their lead because they think they are leaders.  If they are uninvited, they feel left out; for, after all, who would not want them under their tents!
   Co-dependent people do not need God because they have religion.  They cannot get along without their religion and their religion cannot get along without them; and they want others to know just how religious and pious they really are. 
   If you disagree with co-dependent people, they will not like you:  for, in their own minds, they cannot possibly be wrong about anything.  And if you do not polish their egos, they will find other people who will:  for they are truly in love with themselves.
   Co-dependent people are the same as people without natural affection (II Timothy 3: 3).  Their smiles are fake, their laughter is fake, and everything about them is fake because their lives is a fantasy, or a fairytale, or a "once upon a time".  For in their fairytale, they are the chief characters:  perfect in all of their ways and everybody else is imperfect.  They are not caring and sharing people because they are in love with themselves, and they always want their own way.
   In conclusion, people without natural affection are perfect hypocrites.